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My Son Doesn't Have any Enthusiasm for activities

Hi my 5year old son seems to lack interest in doing anything other than playing & watching telly.
Before he even starts anything new he tells me he doesn't like it and won't try properly.

In the past few months we have started him at a football club - which he hated without even trying to join in.

Then we started him at tai-kwondo. Which again he refuses to join in properly.

His friends from school are at both of these groups.

We are supposed to be going skiing as a family at the end of march but he doesn't want to go and I have very little hope now of him joining in the dry ski lessons I have booked for him.

Is this normal ? All of his friends seem to enthusiastically join in with these activities.

Re: My Son Doesn't Have any Enthusiasm for activities

Hi Dawn, do not worry, as long as he has enthusiasm for something and you said he loved playing. Perhaps he is an introvert who does not like activities in groups. as an introvert it does cost him far too much energy and he can't refuel his batteries. These children need time on their own to recharge. Perhaps he is more an arty or musical child? Not all boys are sporty types and they don't have to. Just that our society has these labels - a boy has to be like this, a girl has to be like that, and if your child is not you get worried as a mother.
My son is like yours and I am happy with that. He is very imaginative and plays fantastic. Most children can't even play anymore nowadays....

Re: Re: My Son Doesn't Have any Enthusiasm for activities

My son is a bit like this although at 7 he wants to train for kids triathlons you know a run, bike ride and a swim so this has inspired. He tends to like more individual pursuits rather than team sports. He also plays chess at school and really likes this so that might be something you might like to look into.. It might just take a bit more time for your son to find something he really likes.

Personally I feel there are too many structured activities around these days that start at a very young age. Some children just aren't ready for these at 4 or 5. So long as he plays and is active, he will be fine