I commend you on your concern and wish all parents were as aware as you. I think running backround check are an excellent way to alleviate your fears. But you have to consider that this guy may be a normal, good guy who could have a positive impact on your daughter's life. Your sister obviously trusts him, have you talked to her about him?

I understand your caution because of the circumstances under which your sister met this man, but the vast majority of people who come together because of the internet are good people.

You said you've seen him stare at your daughter inappropriately. While this would make my blood boil, you must realize this was merely your perception, and without additional evidence, is next to meaningless. If you've seen him blatantly ogle, that's another thing, but a simple look or two can easily be misconstrued because of your apprehensions about him.

I support your decision to not permit her to be alone with him, but I think barring all contact is a bit extreme, and could drive a wedge in your family. Imagine how this would all seem to him if he had only the most pure intentions. Just some food for thought.

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I understand what your saying, but he more than ogled my daughter. He tried things like smackin her butt and such. He is now out of the picture anyway. My sister caught him messin around with a younger girl, (not my daughter). He admitted cheeting on her so they are over.

always go with your gut....end this!