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Re: 12 year old daughter alone with 37 year old aunt's boyfriend

I would be just as protective as you are being. My child is only 3 but she is not allowed to be with or around anyone that I do not personally know well.

My advice to you is to check this guy out if you feel that strongly about the inappropriateness of him. If he is making you feel like this with your daughter, he might have made other moms feel like that to. Check the website for child pedophiles in your state. If he has ever done anything illegal with a child or have been accused of it they will have record of it. That way you will know either way.

I hope for you and your family's sake that your feelings are wrong.

Re: Re: 12 year old daughter alone with 37 year old aunt's boyfriend

I have checked him out with a state police investigator as well as call the state he is from and there isn't anything on him. The police from both states said that it doesn't mean he isn't a pedafile just that he hasn't been caught yet. Hopefully he isn't but I plan to keep a close watch and my daughter isn't allowed around him at all. Thank you for your input.

Re: Re: Re: 12 year old daughter alone with 37 year old aunt's boyfriend

I commend you on your concern and wish all parents were as aware as you. I think running backround check are an excellent way to alleviate your fears. But you have to consider that this guy may be a normal, good guy who could have a positive impact on your daughter's life. Your sister obviously trusts him, have you talked to her about him?

I understand your caution because of the circumstances under which your sister met this man, but the vast majority of people who come together because of the internet are good people.

You said you've seen him stare at your daughter inappropriately. While this would make my blood boil, you must realize this was merely your perception, and without additional evidence, is next to meaningless. If you've seen him blatantly ogle, that's another thing, but a simple look or two can easily be misconstrued because of your apprehensions about him.

I support your decision to not permit her to be alone with him, but I think barring all contact is a bit extreme, and could drive a wedge in your family. Imagine how this would all seem to him if he had only the most pure intentions. Just some food for thought.

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Re: 12 year old daughter alone with 37 year old aunt's boyfriend

I understand what your saying, but he more than ogled my daughter. He tried things like smackin her butt and such. He is now out of the picture anyway. My sister caught him messin around with a younger girl, (not my daughter). He admitted cheeting on her so they are over.

Re: 12 year old daughter alone with 37 year old aunt's boyfriend

always go with your gut....end this!