i really would go back to your doctor and have a chat about meds it might help. you could try using a star chart? when your daughter throws a tantrum how do you deal with it? i would put her some where she cant hurt herself and leave her to get over it on her own go back every few mins to check on her but dont speak to her at all!!!!! she will learn that she gets nothing from having a paddy! try making more time to spend with her one to one doing some thing she loves and when she is being good go over the top with telling her how lovely it is when she is a good girl and how much you love her ect. as for the school i would tell them how you want them to do to deal with your daughter and dont take any crap from them its so easy for schools to label children who have problems so that they dont have to deal with it. hope it helps
deb

hi, i know how you feel, i also have a seven year old prone to temper tantrums. adhd is hard to diagnose and often your child may meet several of the criteria for duiagnosis, but alot of behaviour is just general kids. i agree with the other parent who left a message. time out is quite effective. also you must give her positive attention when she is good. often we tend |(as i have done) to focus on the poor behaviour more. this creates a child who will learn quickly that mum responds instantly when naught. as for the school, it is there responsibility to ensure your child is happy at school, and that her needs are met. they shoould communicate directly with you and not just write a note. perhaps you could arrange a meeting with the head and express your views?

hi my daughter was assessed whilst in school yesturday.
I am now waiting to here from the head for a meeting.things seamed a bit better this weeek well last few days. last weekend was a completer nightmare she was out of controle all weekend.

I do feel that my two sons (4 and 9) constantly battle for my attention. This comes out in all kinds of forms like those you mention re your daughter. Mine have settled more when we have and stick to routines of doing such and such with one then such and such with the other and explaining that mum is only one person and can't do everything at once. ( I only have one pair of arms and one head if I had more I'd look like an alien...worked once!)Tricky when they are young but you can explain these things to the older ones. Routine seems calming for mine maybe check and revise yours.
Goodluck

she gets loads of attention and the more she gets the worse she seems to be i have three children she is the oldest and always badly behaved