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Toilet training. Pooing in nappies only

I have a problem with my child only wanting to poo in a nappy at the age of 3 years and 8 months. He has no problem peeing on the toilet in the house and anywhere we go. Pooing for him out of nappies is a major problem.He says he cannot do it, it will not come out. My partner and I have tried the "just sit down and try and do a poo" approach. It just ended up getting confrontational. We have now tried the "when hes ready it will happen" approach . We feel we are getting him no closer to pooing out of nappies. We have tried loads of incentives, like posters on the toilet, sticker chart, toys to play with, Bribes (You can have a new Engine, as in Thomas the Tank Engine collection)He is then all excited about the new engine, but looses interest when he has to do a poo on the toilet. I even bribed him with a Thomas the Tank Engine bed, but to no avail. Any advise would be appreciated. Andy

Re: Toilet training. Pooing in nappies only

Does your son stand or sit when he wees?
If he stands he may be afraid of sitting on the loo for a poo.
Have you tried sitting him on a potty?

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He usually sits for a wee on a potty or toilet. He can wee standing up. We have no problem with the weeing at all. We have tried to incorage him to sit on the toilet/potty and just try and go with no pressure. He jumps on the toilet for a few seconds and then say, "I have tried, can I have a nappy please?". If we put pressure on him it ends up in tears. He say it will not come out on the toilet/potty.

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Leave him in his dirty nappy for a while. Not a long, long, time, but enough to keep him uncomfortable- a good 15 minutes after he lets you know works. He can poo just fine, he probably just likes the attention of getting his diaper changed. If he is 3 1/2 he is also capable of cleaning himself somewhat- show him how to do it, and then make it known you expect him to do it by himself. Supervise him. He won't want to clean his poo if it's squished all over his bottom, and will eventually figure it out that it's a lot easier to just go on the toilet. Also, explain it to him that no one at his school will want to clean his butt for him, and that being able to go on the toilet and clean himself is a pre-requisite for getting into school. That along got my kid out of diapers in about 2 days!

Re: Toilet training. Pooing in nappies only

Mine too! You are not alone. He was nappy trained quickly, took only a week or so but pooing time is not nearly possible.
However, I undertand that my son ocassionally have constipation, especially when he was younger. (Now, he has bananas or oranges regularly.) It was the time that we trained him while he has constipation and it somewhat turtured him. If you find the way to cope with this please kindly let me know. I'm dying to get rid of nappies.
Thank you so much,