does your wife ever put you down when it comes to the kids? i certainly hope not and maybe you shouldn't be doing it either!!! if you catch your children doing something you thing is dangerous then deal with it we mums unfortunatly dont have eyes in the back of our heads, i have the same attitude your wife has when it comes to kids learning not to do dangerous things, kids have no fear and sometimes as silly as seems you have to let them learn the hard way, not so much as to put them in direct danger but just to make them know that yes that hurt wont do that again!!! i'm the soul carer for my kids as my huuby works full time he has never come home and questioned how i deal with the children, your wife sounds a very busy mum and maybe youshould appreciate her more and not underestimate her abilities with the kids