I have been married for 3 yrs. I met my husband when my son was 4yrs. old. He is 11 yrs. now. They use to have a closer relationship when he was younger but, now it seems like my husband is always getting after him almost to the point where it seems as though he finds things to be upset about. i have a 3 yr. old now and he shows affection to him. My 11 yr. old just seems to always bee fustracted because he feels his step father does'nt love him. It hurts me and I tell my husband that he needs to get more involed in his life and he says I just overly baby him. That someone needs to be the discipinary. My husband does not believe in spanking, but I just wish they would be closer. What can I do?