I can sort of relate. While I did not have a cesarean, I had my last two babies 15 months apart. I could not carry my oldest baby and that was hard. I continued to tell her what a big girl she was and how much big girls help their mommies. I would always let her help me feed her new sister...even if it was just sitting beside me and holding the bottle. And I let her pick out the baby's clothes. Just little things to help include her and make her feel special so that sometimes being carried wasn't an issue. Good Luck! My youngest are 2 and almost 4 now and it's getting better each day!