My 4 year old daughter has been out of control lately. She's very independent and likes to have things her way. What she has done lately though is start to laugh or giggle when she is in trouble. She talks back a lot, doesn't listen, and is just really disrespectful. She also tends to raise her voice at me. I am trying very hard to stay in control but it is frustrating and difficult. Yesterday we were looking at new homes and she was humming really loudly, my husband asked her to stop several times. Finally I suggested we go outside where she could run around, and I had to chase her around the room, finally got her outside where she threw a big tantrum. I literally had to drag her kicking and screaming to the car. I don't really like spanking but once in awhile I will swat her on the rear. I would like some other alternative disciplines that others have found successful.
It is pretty normal but annoying behaviour at her age. She is just pushing the limits my son did the same and it was extremely frustrating. I find time out very effective but put her somewhere boring in your house like the laundry not in her bedroom. Be consistent with it though, one warning then time out for about 5 mins only then she should say sorry, don't negotiate. There is a great book called Discipline without Shouting or Spanking. I can't remember the name of the author but google the title and you should be able to find it. Hopefully you can get it from your local library. Hope this helps.
I just wanted to say, I feel for you. My daughter is doing the same things you just described your daughter doing. She's three years old and it feel's alot better to know that it's normal behavior that she's going threw. I've got a mother(whom never raised me abandond me when i was a year old came back in my life after 16years and then, feels she has the right to tear my parenting belief's apart. She believes in a good slap on the butt, and because I don't my daughter/children act out in this manner. Back talk and so on. I believe in, consistency and talking with your kids, letting them know what there doing that you are not going to tolerate. I believe in time outs and so forth. Well, about my mother that is for a whole other subject though, I could write a book about this woman, mother or not, she don't deserve the title she has! Just say she is no longer in my life, she's caused so much havic for my family and children she's no longer allowed in our lifes. Ok for the next opera show! :) sorry. Guess something must be bothering me, is there a place on this board for this kind of subject? again I"m sorry to all you who are readin this.
You have to buy a video on discipline called
123 Magic!
It has been a miracle for me. It gives a SIMPLE, cooperation program that is quick, easy, duplicatable, consistent, and covers pretty much any type of resistance you could get from your child.
Tape one is about "Start Behavior"
Tape two is for "Stop Behavior"
I forgot the name of the Guy who made it, because I borrowed the tapes from the school district (an early intervention specialist that worked for our area education agency). PLEASE have faith and check it out...123 Magic. It sounds corney but its worth it!
i agree, dont shout at her try to stay calm, remember to talk firmly and tell her what she is doing wrong and what will happen if she does not stop. you should think about the time out method or you could give her stickers for when her behaviour is good. just try to stick with it.
Thanks for all the great advice! I will check out the books and videos mentioned. I appreciate the help and sorry I didn't check back sooner. I've also been getting down to her level to speak to her. That seems to help. She is very quick with her apologies. I have also been trying to help her clarify why she is apologizing. Thanks again to everyone!
