my husband got custudy of his 12 daughter she lies argues starts fight with our 3 yr old recently she made a horrible acuzation about her step father which turn out not to be true for which she has been punished and put into counseling .she will not listen to me at all even to put her clothes away all she does is yell i dont even want to come home can someone give some sugestions because now im the evil step mom instead of her evil step father when she lived with them