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Do I spank her

My wife and I have two daughters. Lisa is my 12 year old stepdaughter and Mary is our 11 year old daughter. My wife and I don't believe in spankings, and therefore we have only one homerule that we said we would spank if broken. For several years, we have told both girls that there is only one rule that would result in a spanking if broken. The rule is the deliberate lying to get the other daughter in trouble. Last night Lisa told a lie about seening Mary buy drugs. Mary is very upset, and said that if we don't spank Lisa then we don't love her, and don't mean what we say. We need suggestions and help in this situation.

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Yes, personally i do believe in spanking as a form of discipline, it worked on me and i think a good whack on the backside with a slipper does a lot of good

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I also believe in spanking. But, I don't think this is the time for it. Spanking is a quick end to an infraction to stop the behavior. One young teen sister lying about her sister buying drugs? This sounds more serious to me than any spanking can fix. You better find out what's wrong with them that they would do something that serious to get their sister in trouble.

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I dont agree with the spanking but however there was a consequence for the action that both children were aware of. If you choose not to follow this through then the consequences of that decision will be that the children will learn that they can get away with things. Good luck with your situation.

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Yes, she lied to you both about something very serious. That is precisely the type of behavior when my husband and I spank our kids. Make sure your husband does it though. I've learned that works better. I have a hard time doing it and I know my oldest would prefer it if I do it.